|Posted on October 8, 2015 at 6:00 PM|
This week I want to talk about something that I personally, have thought about a lot. This idea is what is "true love"? Now before I even start, understand this isn't towards any certain type of couple. This can be within any type and I hope you can relate to this regardless of who you love.
When we're younger we watch Disney movies almost on repeat. We learn about how the girl is usually saved by the guy and they fall in love and live happily ever after. I'm not bashing the Disney movies because I seriously love Disney with the entirety of my soul. But when we see at such a young age princess who we wanted to be falling in love, we want to as well. When I was younger I always wanted to be loved and I was aching for some kind of validation in someone else. Maybe that's just human, wanting to be loved. But I would have seriously done anything when I was younger just to "be" with someone. Of course, this hurt me more than it helped. I found that I was desperate and I was only happy when I was with someone. When I realized that I was this way, I decided I didn't want to be like that. I wanted to love myself and be happy. So I stopped looking for validation in other people and found it in myself. Don't for a second think that I'm telling you that dating is bad and ruins you. Because dating is amazing, once you love yourself first. You see, how can you expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself? If you really want that successful relationship with someone like in the Disney movies, you must love yourself first. It's hard and sometimes you might have to say no to people that ask you to go out with them, but if your not in love with yourself you're not going to be happy with them either. Here's the moral of this story, your number one priority is you. All of that love and dating can come after because at the end of the day, all you have is you. Learn to love the one you are alone with and eventually, you'll find peace inside.